LIKE A GREAT RIVER THAT SHAPES LANDSCAPES, GRIEF IN FLOW HAS THE CAPACITY TO ALTER LIVES
Grief is the single most overlooked emotion of our time. It has tremendous capacity to connect our most intimate sorrows with our greatest joys. When we solely focus on joy/happiness/good vibes, which we do a lot of in this modern world, we bypass a hugely important piece of our hardwired process that opens us up to authentic gratitude and praise. When we directly engage with our grief, we burst open vibrant opportunities for individual, collective, and social transformation. So yeah, let's cry.
Authentic Grief is a Potent & Visceral Expression of Gratitude
Grief is a sacred experience grounded in the creative, flowing, somatic brain / body. While it is mystical & sacred, it too can be understood scientifically as an intricate networks of physiology linked across your whole being. There are healthy and reslilent frameworks of moving grief, though hardly any that exist in the modern world. When we fully embody our grief, we are literally shouting up to the cosmos: "No, please why? I am so deeply in love with that person or thing, that I am absolutely devastated it has become hurt, lost, ill, dying, or dead."
Grief Bottled up manifests as imbalance, stagnancy & dis-ease. Grief given permission to flow through as the powerful river it is can facilitate tremendous interpersonal shifting toward compassion, joy & divine alignment with possibility.
Some of the healthiest frameworks we can look toward about full grief embodiment come to us by way of animals, children, and the Old World. Folks of the Old World moved grief with full body wailing. Children, before modern society conditions them to repress emotions, will instinctually shake and cry. Animals also fully grieve. In one case an Orca swimming with her dead whale calf for nearly two months before parting ways. Human beings are not meant to seek out "positive" resonance all the time. Scratch the surface of that kind of seeking and one will find a deep well of unmetabolized grief making home in the body. We are meant to be in harmony and balance with what comes up as it comes up. For what comes up is a direct reflection of the world around us, and without the signals of grief, we are lost in a dark territory of stagnancy.
:: GROUP GRIEF WORK ::
Small classes are designed to provide a safe space where you can explore what is going on just under the surface. Often we hold a presence of "I'm doing fine, thank you," when really there is more to the story under the surface. Together we'll tap into what is there and connect it to your own innate feelings of gratitude and joy. Explore our CLASSES page to learn more.
:: ONE-ON-ONE GRIEF WORK ::
Sometimes the idea of doing group grief work can feel scary, even intimidating. If this is you, then one-on-one work is probably the right fit. You will gain simililar tools and experiences that you would in the group class, but in a space that feels more comfortable for you. Be prepared to dive in, learn new tools, and let the feelings move through. Explore our CLASSES page to learn more.
You have a right to cry in public places. Your tears will hit new octaves. Feel free to make an opera on every street corner that will have you.
-J Mase III from The Grieving Bill of Rights in And Then I Got Fired: One Transqueer's Reflections on Grief, Unemployment & Inappropriate Jokes About Death
We might find then that learning to grieve constructively by allowing ourselves to hurt to the full is not an unwholesome luxury, definitely taboo as some imagine, but plain common sense; that by sincerely expressing genuine feelings, and feeling, we are not wallowing but keeping emotionally balanced--sane.
-Shirley Koers in The Eyes Are Sunlight: A Journey Through Grief